Hey, are you running on empty? Do you judder to a start in the morning? Do you hit the snooze button for just five more minutes of rest?
Be honest, is this you?
It is the majority of women in the life stage of motherhood; especially those in matresence. We give, give, give and do, do, do forgetting we cannot keep pouring from an empty vessel.
Each and every day woken by the alarm as it sounds means another morning of autopilot panic routine. The bread is mouldy, the milk is off, the baby pooped and someone somewhere is yelling that they can only find one sock.
Each and every day woken by the alarm as it sounds means another morning of disorganised chaos. The late night didn’t pay off as the papers are still strewn across the kitchen table, still not completed and now finished off with a neat ring of tea and smudge of marmalade. The toddler’s bag isn’t ready for nursery, the husband is asking where his ironed shirt is and the dog is scratching at the door to be let out.
Each and every day woken by the alarm as it sounds means another morning of looking forward to isolation and loneliness. The husband kisses the baby in your arms forehead as he walks out the door, you feel invisible. Hugging baby closer as you finish the feed you plan your day to try and included a shower.
Each and every day woken by the alarm as it sounds means another morning of unemotional conveyor belt of breakfast. Minute by minute is down to a fine art; clean teeth, wash, packed lunches, shoes polished, out the door and on time.
Four different women, four different lives, four different situations! All of them feeling like a not good enough mother.
Mothers you are not meant to struggle. Mothers you are not alone. Mothers it is time to thrive.
Can you take care of yourself?
Really take care of yourself?
Give yourself the love, nurture and care you give others?
Yes you can! Because you deserve it! Your needs are as important as your babies, your children, your partner, your business, your friends, your family, and your home. Wow! That is some list to put before you. It is time to chunk out self-care time every day.
What does self-care mean to you? Is it pampered time such as a facial or bubble bath or is it taking time to exercise? Perhaps it is a quiet walk in nature or time to read a book? It could be meditation or a hot cup of coffee. Laughter and smiling is the greatest gift of self-care; what can you do to release the feel good chemicals in your brain?
Once you are filling your cup each and every day you can begin to thrive, to change, and to claim your motherhood. You can begin to look inside and trust your feminine intuition and maternal instincts. You can begin to move through your rite of passage – motherhood. You can align with your unique motherhood. You can process and work through matrescence.
Each and every day woken by the alarm as it sounds means a new day full of joy and love. My morning is not perfect; it does not need to be. I live in the moment and go with the flow. I might need a coffee or wake an hour before my family but my morning sets me up for the day. And if it goes haywire………live in participation not perfection and remember laugh!