• Sudeshna Sen

The fourth trimester - week 5

My baby is already a month old, can you believe it? That’s parenthood - the nights are long, the days are short. My highlights of the week included:


  • Baking for the first time in months, what looked and tasted like a cake that would make me win the world’s worst baker competition

  • Going out for dinner a couple of times, only to be super disappointed at the food

  • Realising that the baby ALWAYS sleeps when in the pushchair

  • Finally understanding why mum groups hang out in specific places

  • Museums and art galleries are extremely baby friendly


If you will take the guilty pleasure of laughing at me, here are some more details:





Baking for the first time in months

I had virtually stopped baking since we moved houses last year for two reasons: 1) my pregnancy patience was nearly negative 2) I hadn’t figured out the oven at my new home. Now as an ambitious mum who wanted to bake a cake for the 1st month of her baby (might I add, one who can’t probably even see the cake, forget comprehending why the crying over a badly made cake), I spent way too much time figuring out the oven and less time on the cream. Result? A terrible looking cake that would make me lose all the boasting rights about baking.


Going out for dinner a couple of times, only to be super disappointed at the food

Was it me or had the Italian joints forgotten how to cook? So much for braving the cold evenings with a baby in tow, only to be so disappointed that all I wanted to do was to go back home and get into my pajamas.


Realising that the baby ALWAYS sleeps when in the pushchair

The best way to comfort a crying baby is to put them in a pushchair and tow them around. Unless they’re hungry, this trick works every time! Oh, and if you’re wondering if you should find the level roads, here’s a secret - your baby likes the suspension of the pushchair to be tested. The bumpier, the better!


Finally understanding why mum groups hang out in specific places

We never really ever saw too many newborns in most places we went for coffee or dinner to as child-free adults. This week I discovered why. I was missing sushi and we went to get lunch as a sushi bar with the baby. Of course, everytime you leave home, your baby makes sure that they need a change. Unfortunately at the sushi bar we discovered why parents and mum groups hang out in specific places. Hint: baby change facilities are not as well distributed as one might think. Also, it almost infuriated me that even in 2019, many baby change facilities are only in the women’s toilets.


Museums and art galleries are extremely baby friendly

I don’t know what I was thinking but I didn’t want to be home any longer. I had “time off work” that I wanted to use to explore the city. And I went to V&A with the baby. To be honest, it was one of the most peaceful evenings I spent since the baby was asleep and I got to look around the latest art exhibition. And the changing rooms weren’t a problem. Who knew that museums and art galleries, that were my long time friends, still remained focussed on making my life happier as a new mum!


My pearls of wisdom from the week - get out with your baby. Fresh air and non-baby related entertainment is good for both of you. You’ll very soon get to a stage where the baby won’t let you be in peace while you visit an art exhibition. Or just sit by the river. Or go out for a coffee with friends. This is the fourth trimester… the baby still has limited ability to move and create havoc! ;)


This article is a part of a series by Sudeshna Sen. Sudeshna heads up a team in her corporate career and runs The Abundance Psyche to help ambitious professionals navigate their career dilemmas. Take the Quiz to get a step closer to your dream career.


All opinions published on this blog are the author’s own.


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