Updated: Jun 26
Let me tell you the story of the girl who found a friend in the moon. We will call her Dreamer.
The first time they met was a late night car journey, clutching a pink rabbit and wrapped in her father’s coat. The smell of cigarettes and sound of laughter filled the car. This was a time before we knew better a time when Dreamer was small.
Dreamer remembers the feeling of peaceful happiness and safety as she looked out the window and her breath was taken away. Hanging low in the sky was a huge gentle glowing light, full and round. This was the moment Dreamer anchored a feeling she would seek during the darker times that were to come. This was the feeling when Dreamer could just be.
Dreamer grew a little and had big plans. She wanted to look after the mothers; she wanted to nurture the infants. Why? Because she saw the mothers in Africa on the television with a deep pain and sadness in their eyes holding the children they loved with all their hearts. These children did not have the light of joy in their eyes. Dreamer did not understand why the big people weren't making it better; Dreamer felt a fire ignite and an understanding of the difference within her Self. This was the moment Dreamer anchored her purpose. This was the feeling when Dreamer knew she could take action.
Dreamer grew a little more and began to be able to act on her passion. Dreamer was in a place of wholeheartedness. She believed in a better world, a kinder planet and hope for all. She was a creator and action taker. She was fearless and passionate. Dreamer was going to change the world, she would write and talk and draw to get her message heard. This was her plan! A plan formed before the trust of self was broken.
Then she was told you can’t do that. What are you really going to be? Over and over she was told no by the big people who were supposed to understand that she was going to make the world a better place, a place where mothers could love their baby’s and the baby could thrive. Over and over she told the big people that she was going to create and share and nurture to make it happen. The big people gave her a pat on the head and said of course you are, now what are you actually going to be. This is when Dreamer began to grow small. Dreamer began to acquire armour and shields from the stories heaped upon her.
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Dreamer no longer shined under the sun. Dreamer needed to find the shadows to hide her light. Dreamer remembered her friend the moon and how she made her feel. Dreamer began to create under the gentle presence of the triple goddess, the moon. Dreamer kept her dreams alive and shared them with her friend the moon. When the walls closed in Dreamer went for a stroll under the moon. Here Dreamer shared her true self the one she had to hide from the world she lived in. Here Dreamer learnt to shield her heart, her soul-centred uniqueness from those who feared her light and those who wanted to keep the light for themselves.
As Dreamer grew bigger outside, inside she grew smaller. Life happened to her, life hurt her, life left her feeling out of control and life crushed her big plan. She did not fit the patriarchal world of the good little girl. She did not belong in a disconnected existence and shame filled lies. She began to wither and die, the light so converted and owned by others no longer shone. She left her moon behind and the shadows no longer were her friends.
Then one day as summer began she stood outside and howled in pain. A pain that woke the wild women from all around, a pain that touched a crack where the feminine divine lay hidden, a pain that called in her muchness, a pain that broke the lock upon the cage. As she fell to her knees a light shone down. Her friend the moon was reaching out, touching her and reminding her of the anchored feeling from long ago when she was outside small. That day the inside began to grow again.
From a moment long ago Dreamer had an anchor that saved her. For Dreamer took back control. Dreamer connected back to her soul. Dreamer reawakened her feminine energy. Dreamer took inspired action. Dreamer birthed her plan. Dreamer became the wild woman once more.
Now Dreamer walks under the moon, connected to her energies and flourishes all from a moment which happened long ago.
This is why anchors are so important. When your vibe is low or you are feeling down it can seem just too much to raise that vibration. An anchor will take you to the place you want to be. When you are in the feeling you want to be able to jump to in just a second create an anchor. A smell or piece of music, something visual, something powerful is what works. Start investigating yours, find what works because mama you are awesome but sometimes life happens.
Motherhood is both the most joyous and hardest life stages. Find your anchors, make them strong and activate them today. Shift your mum guilt, shift your mum anxieties and thrive in your wild woman mamahood.
My anchor of the full moon happened by chance at a time I felt safe, loved and protected. It is something that I have come to understand as I travelled my spiritual and mindfulness journey. I can clearly see every aspect of that evening; the smell of Chinese, the vibration of the car, the music on the radio, the fabric of my jacket rubbing my face and the feel of Billy Bunny in my arms. I can see the back of my dads head and the way his hair curls around his ears as its a little too long. I hear my sisters snuffle snores and see they way her head bobbed as we drove home. I can feel the warmth of the moons light and feel the emotion of awe, power and beauty. It is a time when I felt complete, connected to my family, nature and the collective. I am gifting to you; How to Create an Energetic Anchor Through Crystals:
Setting Your Vibrational Aim
Spend time thinking what you want your anchor to be.
What energetic experience do you want?
How do you want to feel?
Is it joy, love, happiness, confidence?
You need to be really specific so think back to a time when you where how you want to feel and name it in one word.
Now it is time to do a bit of research. Find crystals that their energetic vibration matches the way you want to feel. For example; what crystal’s property is love? Now list them! Trust your instincts and intuition here. If a crystal doesn’t resonate then don’t write it down.
Choosing Your Crystal
Take a look at you list. Do you have any of the crystals already? If so gather them up and hold the palm of your non-dominant hand above them.
Which crystal vibrates with you?
Which one are you magnetically drawn to?
Choose this one; if none match the energy you are seeking or you are completely new to crystals it’s time to go crystal cruising. Visit your chosen supplier armed with your list of crystals and repeat holding your palm over them without touching. You can always chose an online store which specialises in crystals and has a good reputation. If you are choosing crystals online still listen to your instincts for direction and send you intention for the energetic relationship into the cosmos. Write notes on how you chose your crystal and which one you connected with.
Infusing the Crystal With Your Energetic Anchor
After clearing and cleansing your crystal you are ready to infuse the crystal with your energetic anchor.
Spend time visualizing - feeling - seeing - smelling your intended energetic anchor whilst holding your crystal in your hands one on top of the other.
Revisit the memory or feeling that you are using as the trigger to created how you want to feel.
Project your intention into your chosen crystal.
Create a mantra to accompany the crystal. Keep it simple, memorable and short.
The infused crystal will interact with you on an energetic level and in the unconscious mind when not actively using the crystal to trigger you anchor. The mantra will nudge your conscious brain. Make notes on the process and record your mantra.
Utilising Your Anchor
When you need or want to feel the energy you infused your crystal with spend a few moments holding your crystal between the palms of your hands, repeat your mantra three times and feel your crystal fill you up just the way you want. You can use this in many parts of your life;
before a business call to feel upbeat and confident,
when life has been just a bit overwhelming to feel calm,
when you are needing that boost of loving your Self.
You can have a few energetic anchors with different crystals to create different anchor points/feels. But use an anchor for a very specific action you are taking; crystals can be turned to for the unexpected or sudden need to transmute, shift, direct, amplify or direct energy. List no more than two other direct action taking energetic anchors you would like to create.
Nurturing and Caring for Your Crystal Anchors
You will need to cleanse and charge your crystals regularly; once a month minimum under the full moon.
And remember to build an energetic relationship with your crystals. Interact with and listen to them; they speak to you on an energetic level and reconnect you to you. The best gift crystals give you is a reconnection/connection to your authentic self. A crystal meditation is a great way to build that energetic relationship.
Love and Abundance
The Soul-Centred Motherhood Mentor